How did I become the `expert at changing a nappy? Jancee Dunn wondered. This, combined with a lack of sleep, a suddenly unfair division of household chores and her husbands new found passion for very long bike rides, meant that Jancee found it hard to look at her well-meaning, clever, funny husband playing with his i-phone without feeling a white-hot rage. Like many expectant parents, theyd spent weeks researching the safest car seat but little time thinking about the titanic impact the baby would have on their marriage and the way their marriage would affect their child. Tired of having the same fights over and over, Dunn consults the latest relationship research, solicits the counsel of the renowned sex and couples' therapists, canvasses friends and parents, and even consults an FBI hostage negotiator on how to effectively contain an `explosive situation. No one said it would be easy, but it turns out that the man who got you into this position in the first place is the ally you didnt know you had.