Monogamy is not the norm in today's marriages. Here the author gives the reader an alternative to the blame the victim approach of most experts on why affairs happen. She examines all the complex reasons behind why people have affairs, especially the role that society plays in encouraging them. By challenging the widely-accepted view that affairs are a sign of failure by one or both partners, this book can help to pave the way to recovery and building healthier, enduring and loving relationships.