All intimate relationships can be terribly damanged by too mcuh distance, too mcuh intensity or simply too much pain. In clear, direct and dramatic terms, psychotherapist Harriet G. Lerner illustrates how we can move differently in these key relationships -- be they with a distant or unfaithful spouse, a depressed sister, a difficult mother, an uncommitted lover or a family member that we have written off. Using poignant examples from case studies and stories from the author's own life The Dance of Intimacy illuminates the steps that women can take towards more solid and intimate relationships with others. Whatever your own definition of intimacy, this book will challenge and broaden it, as the author provides a sound framework for understanding how we get in -- and out -- of trouble with the most important people in our lives.