This text explains how relationships develop, how they can go wrong, and how they can be improved. This book shows that to gain respect, admiration and love requires more than kindness, patience and tolerance. Romantic notions of love are often misleading and if we spoil people we may end up by no longer loving them. It argues that loving relationships are better when they contain an element of assertiveness. Hauck is the author of How to Stand Up for Yourself, Calm Down, Why Be Afraid? and Making Marriage Work.