Introduction
- My Personal Journey into The Boy Crisis
PART I: Is There Really a Boy Crisis?
1 The Crisis of Our Sons Mental Health
2 The Crisis of Our Sons Physical Health
3 The Crisis of Our Sons Economic Health
4 The Crisis of Our Sons Education
5 The Crisis of Our Sons Worldwide
6 Why Are We So Blind to the Boy Crisis?
PART II: Why the Boy Crisis Isnt Your Fault
7 The Boy Crisis: A Problem Created by a Solution
PART III: The Purpose Void
8 The Path-to-Purpose Generation Gap
- The Power of Purpose
- I never thought you cared enough to ask.
- Your Sons Unconscious Wisdom
- Can a Real Man Transition from ProviderProtector to NurturerConnector?
9 The Hero Paradox: Value Yourself by Not Valuing Yourself
- A Hero with a Thousand Faces
- The Sirens of Social Bribes
- Social bribes: Mom, men, the media, the military
- The Catch-22 of Your Son-as-Hero
10 Why Do More Marriages Fail in Countries That Succeed?
- The fathers catch-22
- The Era of the Multi-Option Mom and the No-Option Dad
- How Did Our Daughters Avoid the Purpose Void?
- Sorry, Its a Boy
11 How Raising Our Sons Successfully in the Past Differs from Raising Our Sons Successfully for Their Future
- Making Money Versus Making a Difference
- How to Guide Different Boys Toward Different Senses of Purpose
- Our Sons New Sense of Purpose: The Heros Journey to Emotional Intelligence
- Son-Dropping
12 Raising a Balanced Son in an Out-of-Balance World
- What Happened to Pick-Up Team Sports?
- Helping Your Son Find His Edge
- Filling Your Sons Purpose Void: Your Son as Hero
PART IV: Dad-Deprived Boys vs. Dad-Enriched Boys
13 Dad-Deprived Boys
- Boys Who Hurt, Hurt Us
- The Lost Boys: Mass shooters
- ISIS: A gang of dad-deprived boys?
- Bio Dad: The Discovery of the Dad Brain
- Careers Are for Now; Children Are Forever
- The Absence of Dad Creates the Presence of Government
14 Why Are Dads So Important?
15 Rediscovering Dad
- The Generation of the Dad Rich Versus the Dad Poor
- When Does Dad Begin to Matter?
- Stepdad or Bio Dad: Does it Make a Difference?
16 What Dads Do Differently
- Boundary Enforcement (Versus Boundary Setting)
- Exploring Nature, Taking Risks
- Roughhousing: Dad as a Rough, Tough Cream Puff
- Teachable Moments: A Little Pain for a Lot of Gain
- Challenging the Kids Limits
- Hangout Time
- Teasing: Emotional Intelligence Training, Dad-Style?
- The Conditional or Hierarchical Dad
- The Worrier and the Warrior: The Checks and Balances of Parenting
17 In the Case of Divorce . . . The Four Must-Dos
18 The Father Warrior: Why Fathering Will Be a New Male Sense of Purpose
- com: The Father Warrior Meets the Have-It-All Woman
- If Men Get Paid More, Is It Realistic for a Dad to Be the Primary Parent?
19 DAD: Discrimination Against Dads
- It Doesnt Feel Right When I See Them Together
- Moms Have the Right to Children, Dads Have to Fight for Children
- How Did Father Knows Best Become Father Knows Less?
- Guiding Your Son to Make a Difference
20 The Best Parent is Both Parents, But ...
- The Best Parent is an Attitude Shift
- Fighting in front of the kids
- No one asked why the men were drinking
- Cheap fun for dad and son
- Dad-inspiring movies
- When the Best Parent Cannot Be Both Parents
- The Cub Scouts and character
- Mentoring and rite-of-passage programs
- Grandfather time
- When the biological father is missing, can God the Father help?
21 From Cultural Shrug to Cultural Shift
- Kill Today, Love Tomorrow: The Military Dad Dilemma
- From Fathers Dime to Fathers Time
- The Government: As Problem, as Solution
- Creating a White House Council on Boys and Men
- Our Dads, Our Sons, Our Guns
22 Creating Dad-Enriched Families
PART V: Heroic Intelligence Versus Health Intelligence
23 Heroic Intelligence Versus Health Intelligence
- Biologically, Girls Just Live Longer, Right?
- Social Bribes: HollywoodHeroic Health Versus Mental and Physical Health
- Does the new heroine mean your son wont have to risk his life for her love?
- Health Intelligence Inventory
- Boys Weakness as Their Facade of Strength
- Your Sons Body, Not His Choice
- First and ten, concussion again!
- My son wants to join the military. Is this good news or bad news?
- Your Sons Body, Your Sons Choice: Resisting the Sirens of Social Bribes
24 Emotional Intelligence and Mental Health
- The Barriers to a Boys Emotional Intelligence
- Behind Your Sons Mask
- Im fine . . . Just leave me alone.
- Helping your son take risks in life without risking his life
- How Heroic Intelligence and Emotional Intelligence Play Out in Everyday Life
- Moving to better neighborhoods helps girls and hurts boys
- The bully and the bullied
- Helping both the bully and the bullied
- Eighteen Steps Toward Integrating Emotional and Physical Health Intelligence into Heroic Intelligence
25 Reversing Depression, Preventing Suicide
- Causes of Suicide
- Women cry, men die
- If no human doing, no human being
- Suicide is contagious
- Diagnosing Danger: The Warren Farrell Male Depression/Suicide Inventory (WFMDI)
- Preventing Suicide
26 Hidden Hazards to Your Sons Health
- The Sperm Crisis: To Be, or Not to Be
- Drinking and Drugs
- The Unholy Trinity: Obesity, Diabetes, and Erectile Dysfunction
27 From Hurt People Hurting People to Healed People Healing People
- Refilling the Empathy Void
- Couples Communication: Your Childrens Best Inheritance
PART VI: ADHD: Treatment With or Without Medication
28 The New Neural Crisis
29 The Four Faces of ADHD
30 The Many Causes of ADHD
- Addressing the Cause to Heal the Brain
31 Natural Solutions to Restore Dopamine Function
32 Natural Supplements for Better Brain Performance
Conclusion
- Your Mission: Guiding Your Son to Discover His Mission
- Extending Gender Liberation to Dads
- From Cultural Shrug to Cultural Mission: A Gender Liberation Movement
Appendix A: Family Dinner Night: The Five Essentials
Appendix B: The Boy Crisis List: The Benefits of Dad, the Dangers of Dad Deprivation
Bibliography
Acknowledgments
About the Authors