'Dr. Hollander manages to take a very complex problem and describe it in a language accessible to teens, parents, and those working with them. Most importantly, he does this without sacrificing what we know scientifically about teen cutting. He is one of the top trainers in dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) worldwide, and it shows in this book. His skills as a therapist and his experience applying DBT with teens shine through. DBT is an effective treatment, and this book makes many of the fundamentals of the treatment accessible to the public. It is long overdue.' - Marsha M. Linehan, Professor and Director, Behavioral Research and Therapy Clinics, Department of Psychology, University of Washington, USA
For parents:
'This is an extremely thoughtful, wise, and empathic guide for the parents of teens caught up in the painful and complex web of self-injury. Both down to earth and practical, the book draws on substantial clinical experience and the latest scientific data. Dr. Hollander takes the mystery out of this confusing but all-too-prevalent behavior, debunks the many myths surrounding it, and deftly delineates state-of-the-art treatment principles. Dr. Hollander has done us all a great service with this book.' - William S. Pollack, Department of Psychiatry, Harvard Medical School, USA author of Real Boys
For professionals:
This is an extremely thoughtful, wise, and empathic guide for the parents of teens caught up in the painful and complex web of self-injury. Both down to earth and practical, the book draws on substantial clinical experience and the latest scientific data. Dr. Hollander takes the mystery out of this confusing but all-too-prevalent behavior, debunks the many myths surrounding it, and deftly delineates state-of-the-art treatment principles. Dr. Hollander has done us all a great service with this book. - William S. Pollack, Department of Psychiatry, Harvard Medical School; author of Real Boys
'This book contributes an essential piece to solving the puzzle of adolescents who cut. Dr. Hollander writes not only with insight and understanding, but also with empathy, humor, and practical wisdom. Self-injury presents an overwhelming dilemma for both parents and professionals, and this book should be required reading. Dr. Hollander illuminates the world of these teens and offers sage advice on how to help them. This book has changed both the way I will parent and the way I will treat patients.' - Natalie Geary, pediatrician, New York City, USA
'A truly remarkable book. Dr. Hollander offers a wealth of information about cutting, reveals the communication mistakes that even well-intentioned parents make, and illustrates specific ways of talking with kids to help them stop hurting themselves. Empathic, easy to read, and jargon free, this book is a major resource for parents and professionals alike. I recommend it highly.' - Robert Brooks, coauthor of Raising Resilient Children
Dr. Hollander's book is a lifeline to parents, offering reassurance and wisdom supported by experience. He seems to really understand how frightening it is to be the parent of a teen who cuts. This book provides relief, hope, and guidelines to follow. I am truly grateful for this book. - Parent, New York City, USA
Very readable and highly informative. I read this book after my daughter had undergone extensive treatment, and I strongly recommend it to all parents, especially those who are beginning the journey through treatment with their child and trying to understand self-harming behavior. What I appreciated most about the book were the explanations of the root causes of self-injury and the guidance on how to interact with your child in ways that support recovery. - Parent, Boston, Massachusetts, USA
This book is a good example of knowledge transfer from a clinical psychologist to parents of self-cutting and self-harming teens....Common myths are dispelled through case vignettes elucidating current evidence-based facts such as the difference between self-cutting and suicidal behaviors. The details of the case vignettes testify not only to the breadth of the author's clinical experience but also to his empathic understanding of the parent's predicament....Michael Hollander's book fulfills several important goals. It explains the difficult psychological constructs relevant to parents' understanding of the emotional dilemma of self-harming teenagers in a simple rather than simplistic way, and it guides parents with respect to choice of the best therapies and methods of cooperation with therapists. The book is, in fact, a therapeutic invention in itself, for it reduces the heavy burden of guilt and the fears of parents of self-harming teenagers. The appendix includes evidence for the effectiveness of DBT in adolescents, a list of internet sites and a list of clinical programs in the United States. This book is recommended for parents, teachers, and child and youth workers. - Nasreen Roberts, Journal of the Canadian Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, Vol. 20, No. 1, February 2011
'Dr. Hollander manages to take a very complex problem and describe it in a language accessible to teens, parents, and those working with them. Most importantly, he does this without sacrificing what we know scientifically about teen cutting. He is one of the top trainers in dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) worldwide, and it shows in this book. His skills as a therapist and his experience applying DBT with teens shine through. DBT is an effective treatment, and this book makes many of the fundamentals of the treatment accessible to the public. It is long overdue.' - Marsha M. Linehan, Professor and Director, Behavioral Research and Therapy Clinics, Department of Psychology, University of Washington, USA
For parents:
'This is an extremely thoughtful, wise, and empathic guide for the parents of teens caught up in the painful and complex web of self-injury. Both down to earth and practical, the book draws on substantial clinical experience and the latest scientific data. Dr. Hollander takes the mystery out of this confusing but all-too-prevalent behavior, debunks the many myths surrounding it, and deftly delineates state-of-the-art treatment principles. Dr. Hollander has done us all a great service with this book.' - William S. Pollack, Department of Psychiatry, Harvard Medical School, USA author of Real Boys
For professionals:
This is an extremely thoughtful, wise, and empathic guide for the parents of teens caught up in the painful and complex web of self-injury. Both down to earth and practical, the book draws on substantial clinical experience and the latest scientific data. Dr. Hollander takes the mystery out of this confusing but all-too-prevalent behavior, debunks the many myths surrounding it, and deftly delineates state-of-the-art treatment principles. Dr. Hollander has done us all a great service with this book. - William S. Pollack, Department of Psychiatry, Harvard Medical School; author of Real Boys
'This book contributes an essential piece to solving the puzzle of adolescents who cut. Dr. Hollander writes not only with insight and understanding, but also with empathy, humor, and practical wisdom. Self-injury presents an overwhelming dilemma for both parents and professionals, and this book should be required reading. Dr. Hollander illuminates the world of these teens and offers sage advice on how to help them. This book has changed both the way I will parent and the way I will treat patients.' - Natalie Geary, pediatrician, New York City, USA
'A truly remarkable book. Dr. Hollander offers a wealth of information about cutting, reveals the communication mistakes that even well-intentioned parents make, and illustrates specific ways of talking with kids to help them stop hurting themselves. Empathic, easy to read, and jargon free, this book is a major resource for parents and professionals alike. I recommend it highly.' - Robert Brooks, coauthor of Raising Resilient Children
Dr. Hollander's book is a lifeline to parents, offering reassurance and wisdom supported by experience. He seems to really understand how frightening it is to be the parent of a teen who cuts. This book provides relief, hope, and guidelines to follow. I am truly grateful for this book. - Parent, New York City, USA
Very readable and highly informative. I read this book after my daughter had undergone extensive treatment, and I strongly recommend it to all parents, especially those who are beginning the journey through treatment with their child and trying to understand self-harming behavior. What I appreciated most about the book were the explanations of the root causes of self-injury and the guidance on how to interact with your child in ways that support recovery. - Parent, Boston, Massachusetts, USA
