Wiley PracticePlanners Series Preface xv
Acknowledgments xvii
Introduction xix
Section IActivity/Family Imbalance 1
Exercise I.A When Can We Be Together? 2
Section IIAddictions 3
Exercise II.A How Much Does It Cost? 4
Exercise II.B Staying Clean 8
Exercise II.C What Else Can I Do? 11
Exercise II.D Keeping Busy 13
Section IIIAdoption 15
Exercise III.A This Is How I Feel 16
Exercise III.B My Safe Place 19
Section IVAnger Management 20
Exercise IV.A Is It Passive, Aggressive, or Assertive? 21
Exercise IV.B Why Am I So Angry? 26
Exercise IV.C What Happens When I Become Angry? 28
Exercise IV.D I Dont Have Any Bruises But I Still Hurt 31
Exercise IV.E Go Blow Out Some Candles 36
Section VAnxiety 37
Exercise V.A Its Us Against the Anxiety 38
Exercise V.B My/Our Daughter Is Afraid to Go to School 40
Exercise V.C When I Feel Anxious It Is Like . . . 42
Exercise V.D My Mothers Anxiety Makes Me Feel . . . 45
Section VIBehavioral Problems With Children and Adolescents 47
Exercise VI.A My Child Just Wont Listen 48
Exercise VI.B Acting as If 52
Exercise VI.C We Have to Make Some Type of Agreement 55
Exercise VI.D Charting Our Course 58
Section VIIBipolar 60
Exercise VII.A My Mom Just Wont Stay on Her Medication 61
Section VIIIBlaming 65
Exercise VIII.A What Do I Say? What Can I Say? 66
Exercise VIII.B Dont Look at Me, Ask Him 69
Exercise VIII.C The Blaming Jar 71
Exercise VIII.D Whats My Job? 73
Section IXBlended Families 75
Exercise IX.A I Dont Like It When You . . . 76
Exercise IX.B I Have Too Many Parents 80
Exercise IX.C We Need to Agree 85
Section XCommunication Problems 88
Exercise X.A How Can I Talk So Hell Listen? 89
Exercise X.B Everything Is Always Negative in Our House 92
Section XIDeath/Loss Issues 93
Exercise XI.A Remember When . . . 94
Exercise XI.B Until We Meet Again, Love 97
Exercise XI.C The Questions, Feelings, Comments/Concerns Game 102
Section XIIDependency 103
Exercise XII.A Dependency Go Away 104
Section XIIIDepression 106
Exercise XIII.A Do I Have To Be Depressed? 107
Exercise XIII.B My Positive Script 110
Exercise XIII.C Someone in My Family Is Depressed 113
Exercise XIII.D What Am I Thinking When I Am Feeling Depressed? 115
Exercise XIII.E What Do Others Value about Me? 117
Exercise XIII.F My/Our Daughter is Depressed 119
Section XIVDisengagement/Loss of Family Cohesion 121
Exercise XIV.A Circles of Perception 122
Section XVEating Disorders 124
Exercise XV.A I Need to Get Control 125
Exercise XV.B What Am I Thinking? 128
Exercise XV.C Why Is She Doing This? 131
Section XVIEstranged Family Members 133
Exercise XVI.A Were No Longer Speaking to One Another 134
Exercise XVI.B I Miss You 136
Section XVIIFamily Business Conflicts 139
Exercise XVII.A A Changing of the Guard 140
Exercise XVII.B Who Is Doing What? 142
Section XVIIIFamily-of-Origin Interference 143
Exercise XVIII.A Thanks, But No Thanks 144
Exercise XVIII.B How Can I Tell Her to Mind Her Own Business? 146
Section XIXFoster Care 147
Exercise XIX.A I Want to Go Home 148
Section XXGeographic Relocation 150
Exercise XX.A Were Moving 151
Exercise XX.B Should We or Should We Not? 153
Section XXIInheritance Disputes 155
Exercise XXI.A He Always Did Like You Best 156
Section XXIIInterracial Family Problems 157
Exercise XXII.A Theyre Calling Me a Half-Breed 158
Section XXIIIIntolerance/Defensiveness 160
Exercise XXIII.A Before and After 161
Exercise XXIII.B Why Cant You Understand My Side for Once? Part I 164
Exercise XXIII.C Why Cant You Understand My Side for Once? Part II 166
Section XXIVJealousy/Insecurity 167
Exercise XXIV.A I Dont Have to Be Jealous or Insecure Anymore 168
Exercise XXIV.B I Am Not Jealous 171
Section XXVLife-Threatening/Chronic Illness 174
Exercise XXV.A Johnny Has Leukemia 175
Section XXVIMultiple-Birth Dilemmas 176
Exercise XXVI.A With Seven You Get an Eggroll 177
Exercise XXVI.B How Are We Going to Do This? 179
Section XXVIIPervasive Developmental Disorders 180
Exercise XXVII.A Knowing What to Expect 181
Section XXVIIIPhysical Disabilities 182
Exercise XXVIII.A Why Is Dad in Bed All Day? 183
Section XXIXPhysical/Verbal/Psychological Abuse 184
Exercise XXIX.A What Is Okay and What Is Not Okay? 185
Section XXXReligious/Spiritual Conflicts 187
Exercise XXX.A I Dont Know What to Believe in Anymore 188
Section XXXISchizophrenia 190
Exercise XXXI.A My Brother Hears Voices 191
Section XXXIISchool Problems 193
Exercise XXXII.A My Teenager Is Truant 194
Section XXXIIISeparation/Divorce 197
Exercise XXXIII.A My Parents Are Getting a Divorce 198
Section XXXIVSexual Abuse 200
Exercise XXXIV.A I Will Be a Survivor! 201
Exercise XXXIV.B Getting It Out 208
Exercise XXXIV.C I Gotta Stop Thinking This Way 213
Exercise XXXIV.D A Picture Is Worth a Thousand Words 215
Section XXXVSexual Preferences 219
Exercise XXXV.A I Am Still Danny 220
Section XXXVISuicide Attempts 221
Exercise XXXVI.A I Want Things to Be Better 222
Exercise XXXVI.B Creating a Positive Outlook 227
Section XXXVIIUnwanted/Unplanned Pregnancies 229
Exercise XXXVII.A Honey, Guess What? 230
References 233
About the Authors 235
About the Downloadable Assignments 237
