Old age, death, and impermanence - it seems at first glance impossible to make a reader see these timeless and universal experiences with fresh eyes, but Ann Putnam's luminous prose achieves that miracle and more, transforming pain, suffering, and loss into a literary gift of beauty and redemption. - Charles Johnson, author of Middle Passage, winner of the 1990 National Book Award Unflinching in its look at the truths we may prefer to ignore - the passing of time, the breakdown of the body, the complicated give and take between parent and child, the fact that we are all on the inexorable march toward the end - this is a hard book because Ann Putnam has the courage to tell us the truth about aging and dying. But it's a gorgeous book, too, one born from the endurance of the human spirit and the capacity to love. - Lee Martin, author of River of Heaven This memoir is heart-rending and heart-warming, as Ann Putnam describes the deaths of her beloved father and his identical twin, her much-loved uncle. Putnam translates these losses into an inspiring and poignant family story that is also the tale of every family facing the inevitable. - Nina Baym, editor of The Norton Anthology of American Literature Ann Putnam's story should be helpful to many people trying to care for elderly, ill loved ones. This is not a how-to handbook, but rather a model of making meaning, a narrative of love - of piecing together scraps of lives, artifacts, photographs, memories, letters. - Carol Donley, co-editor of Doctors and Their Stories With the caring attention of a novelist, Ann Putnam has given us a story of love and loss and survival that moves and instructs. This is a work of love and devotion, a gift. - Annick Smith, author of In This We Are Native and co-producer of the film A River Runs Through It