'In this searingly honest, brazenly fresh, and startlingly rich book, Bethany Saltman plunders her autobiography for insights about attachment and brilliantly connects them to the work of Mary Ainsworth and other thinkers in the field. By personalising the story of attachment in relation to both her family of origin and the one she created, Saltman creates a compelling narrative arc that turns up insight after insight. This book about attachment is the story of how we learn love, both early in our lives and later on. It is a profound and beautiful work.'
-- Andrew Solomon, National Book Award-winning author of
The Noonday Demon and
Far from the Tree'Strange Situation is a beautiful exploration of what makes us human - our relationships. By artfully weaving together her own experiences as a mother, daughter, and wife with the science of attachment and the fascinating life history of one of its founders, Mary Ainsworth, Saltman helps us to see ourselves - and our relationships with those we love - in an entirely new way.'
-- Lori Gottlieb,
New York Times bestselling author of
Maybe You Should Talk to Someone'This is a unique and thoughtful book - part memoir, part social science, part biography of Ainsworth and part self-help. Readers who are battling their own demons as parents may feel grateful for Ms. Saltman's unsparing account of herself.'
* The Wall Street Journal *
'Strange Situation is a book that will change you. Surrender to this seductive, searching, genius hybrid of social science and memoir and you will never hug someone, laugh, or hear a child cry the same way again.'
-- Wednesday Martin, bestselling author of
Primates of Park Avenue and
Untrue'Brilliant, brutally honest, and ultimately redemptive, Bethany Saltman's powerful and meticulous new book, Strange Situation, made me see my own childhood and my own parenting in a fascinating new light. This book flooded me with emotions and questions, but unfolded like an epic drama. I couldn't put it down.'
-- Amy Chua, bestselling author of
Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother and
Political Tribes'This extraordinary book tells the story of attachment research and summarises the key findings of half a century of research in a gripping manner. It is a book that will appeal to everyone with an interest in early relationships, the nature of bonding, as well as the history of developmental science. It is an exceptional achievement for Saltman to have created a 'pageturner' that reveals the excitement behind the discoveries of attachment research. A must-read for anyone interested in childhood and those who have spent their lives studying it.'
-- Professor Peter Fonagy OBE, Chief Executive, Anna Freud National Centre for Children and Families
'[A] fascinating deep dive into attachment theory ... Carefully researched and with copious endnotes, this is an excellent resource for anyone interested in child development.'
* Publishers Weekly *
'An examination of the psychological attachment between parent and child from both personal and more detached points of view ... [H]onest and complex. A thoughtful engagement with a topic that affects all parents.'
* Kirkus Reviews *
'A beautifully written account of the courage, luminosity, and sheer audacity of loving someone.'
-- Sharon Salzberg, author of
Lovingkindness and
Real Love'Absorbing ... Saltman tells two separate stories here: One is her personal journey as a mother, the other the story of the science of attachment. But the narratives are also deeply intertwined ... Saltman is at her best in her chapters on Ainsworth and the development of attachment theory.'
* The Washington Post *
'[A] fascinating mix of memoir and the history of a major revolution in the scientific theory of the relationships we form in our first year of life.' STARRED REVIEW
* Booklist *
'A decade's worth of research informs this engaging exploration of how humans learn to delight in each other and in life itself.'
-- The Age * Fiona Capp *