Is it possible to love well without lying? Love should lead us to the truth, about ourselves and about those we love, shouldn't it? But in the real world we find that love and lies often work hand in hand, and that it may be difficult to sustain love without illusions or even deception. Ranging widely across philosophy, his own experience, neuroscience, psychoanalysis, and many writers on love, Clancy Martin - divorced twice and married three times - explores how love, truthfulness and deception work together.