Contents of the CD-ROM xv
Foreword by Roger Schwarz xxv
Introduction 1
Coaching Exercise Matrix: Matching Methods with Client Needs 9
PART ONE Foundations for Facilitative Coaching 13
ONE The Importance of Expanding Your Repertoire 15
Anne Marie Resolves Her Dilemma 16
How Our Approach Differs from Others 19
The Importance of Using a Full Range of Interventions 21
Results from Expanding Your Repertoire 25
TWO Guiding Principles 27
The Facilitative Coach Guiding Principles 28
Modeling the Guiding Principles 39
THREE Guidelines for Using Tools and Techniques 41
Tips for Diagnosing 41
How to Intervene 43
Intervention Steps 44
Choosing an Appropriate Intervention 46
Jointly Designing an Intervention 48
PART TWO Tools, Techniques, and Exercises 51
FOUR Starting with Yourself 53
Being Present 53
Exercises to Help You and Your Client Become Fully Present 55
4.1 Breathe Yourself Present 56
4.2 Sitting or Walking Meditation 58
4.3 Refocusing Attention 61
4.4 Where Are YOU? 62
Addressing Your Inner Critic 63
Inner Critic Exercise Series 70
4.5 Forming and Conversing with Your Inner Critic 71
4.6 Asking Your Inner Critic to Move Aside 73
4.7 Forming and Conversing with Your Compassionate Self 75
FIVE Changing Thinking 79
Distinguish Basic and Developmental Coaching 79
Developmental Coaching: James Sees It's More Than a Meeting 80
Carefully Honor Joint Design, Curiosity, and Compassionate Support 82
Distinguish Coaching from Therapy 83
Exercises for Changing Thinking 84
5.1 Hot Buttons 85
5.2 Theory-in-Use Interventions 88
5.3 Left-Hand Column Cases 92
5.4 The Inside Story 103
5.5 Creative/Survival Cycle Exercise 108
SIX Talking It Through 119
Exploring Statements 120
Intervening on Ground Rules 121
Inquiring: Zesty Questions Change Lives 122
Using Stories to Connect the Dots 127
Verbal Meets Visual: Metaphors and Guided Imagery 129
Exercises for Talking It Through 134
6.1 Out of the Mouth, Into the Mind 135
6.2 Intervening on Ground Rules 137
6.3 Daily Ground Rules Practice 141
6.4 Opening the Door: Reflective Questions 143
6.5 Tell Me a Story 145
6.6 Role Play 148
6.7 Creating Metaphors 150
6.8 Guided Imagery 153
SEVEN Writing It Out 157
Structured and Reflective Writing 158
Guidelines for Writing Exercises 159
How It Works: Danna Discovers Her Muse 160
Structured Writing Exercises 162
7.1 Developing Decision Criteria 163
7.2 Clarifying Purpose and Goals 166
7.3 Stepping Stones to Project Completion 168
7.4 Make a List or Two 173
7.5 You and Me: Similarities and Differences in a Conflicted Relationship 175
Reflective Writing Exercises 177
7.6 Creating a Vision 178
7.7 Journaling: Guidance from Unconscious Wisdom 181
7.8 Assignments: Thematic Journaling 184
7.9 A Poem (or a Song) in Your Heart 186
7.10 Scripts: Making Imagined and Remembered Conversations Explicit 189
7.11 Letters Sent and Unsent 191
7.12 This Is Your Life Time Line 193
EIGHT Making It Visual 197
Sallie Sees Her Fragmentation 197
The Power of Visual Knowing 198
Intervening Through Visual Expression 202
Exercises for Visual Expression 209
8.1 This or That: Compare and Contrast 211
8.2 Cards of Choice 213
8.3 Shaping Your Reality 215
8.4 Knowing Your Gifts and Stuck Places 217
8.5 Mirror Drawing 220
8.6 Scribble Drawing 222
8.7 Vision Collage 224
8.8 Contrasting Experiences 226
8.9 Force Fit 229
8.10 Post Carding Problems 231
8.11 Inspirational Anchor Image 233
NINE Engaging the Body 235
Anne Discovers Body Wisdom 235
What Is Body Wisdom? 238
Benefits of Working Through the Body 239
Exercises for Accessing Body Wisdom 244
9.1 Three-Part Breath 245
9.2 Sitting or Lying Meditation with Circular Breath 248
9.3 Body Scan 251
9.4 Body Barometer 255
9.5 Centering 257
9.6 Balancing 259
9.7 Becoming the Mountain 261
9.8 Body Sculpting 264
TEN Conducting Fieldwork and Experiments 267
Defining Fieldwork and Experiments 267
Fieldwork: When and Why 268
Experiments: When and Why 269
Designing Fieldwork and Experiments 270
Conducting and Debriefing Fieldwork and Experiments 271
Exercises for Fieldwork 272
10.1 How to Jump-Start a Project 273
10.2 Surround Yourself: A Wall of Possibilities, A World of Options 275
10.3 Noticing and Tracking Your Behavior 278
10.4 Observing Others 281
10.5 Yes Versus No 284
10.6 Gifts Assessment: Interview Friends and Colleagues 286
Exercises for Experimentation 288
10.7 Do One Thing Differently 289
10.8 Practice Imperfection for a Change 291
10.9 Delegate a Task 293
10.10 Work Project Skills Transfer 295
ELEVEN Enacting Rituals 297
What Is a Ritual? 297
Elana's Turning Point Ritual 298
The Parking Lot Ritual: Helping a Group Accept Change 299
Benefits of Including Rituals 301
Helping Your Client Design and Debrief a Ritual 302
Exercises for Rituals 303
11.1 Designing Daily Rituals 304
11.2 Solidify Intention 306
11.3 Transition Ritual 308
11.4 Breaking Free Ritual 311
TWELVE Assessing and Celebrating Results 315
Assessing Results 315
Celebrating Results 317
Exercises for Assessing and Celebrating Results 320
12.1. Questions for Assessing Results 321
12.2. Successes and Accomplishments List 324
12.3. Cards of Acknowledgment 327
12.4. Rewarding Yourself 329
12.5 Creating Awards 333
12.6 Celebration Dinners 335
PART THREE Putting It All Together 337
THIRTEEN Designing Your Own Interventions 339
Give Yourself Permission to Create 340
Shamelessly Mine the Gift of Life 340
Use Whatever Is Available in the Moment 341
Use Your Intuition 343
Start Where the Client Is 343
Build on Contrasts 344
Listen for Metaphors, Analogies, or Colorful Language 344
Adapt What You Know 345
Remain Curious and Playful 345
Co-Create with Clients and Colleagues 345
FOURTEEN Combining Modalities for Successful Coaching 347
Establishing a Relationship to Support Your Interventions 347
Combining Modalities 348
Guidelines for Choosing Modalities 350
Catalysts for Suggesting a Modality 352
A Three-Course Meal Plus Dessert: Combining Multiple 355
Modalities Over TimeClosing the Coaching Engagement 360
Putting It All Together: Practice Scenarios for Choosing and Combining Modalities 360
Appendices The Facilitative Coach Foundation Models 363
Appendix A: The Facilitative Coach Model 363
Appendix B: The Unilateral Control and Mutual Learning Models 377
Appendix C: Ground Rules for Effective Groups 381
Appendix D: The Diagnosis-Intervention Cycle 383
Appendix E: The Life Learning (Creative/Survival) Model (TM) 385
Appendix F: The Drama Triangle 389
Resources 393
Resources for Learning More 393
Suggested Art Materials 398
Suggestions for Addressing Chapter Fourteen Practice Scenarios 399
References 405
Index 409
About the Authors 421
About Roger Schwarz & Associates 427
About the Center for Creative Consciousness 429
