Same Game Different Rules by Jean Hollands
You are a smart, ambitious, no-nonsense businesswoman with her eye on the prize--a two-fisted, go-getter who always gets results. Your superiors openly praise your competence and brains, and you are beloved by your company's clients. Now for the bad news: those same qualities that, so far, have earned you so many kudos could very well destroy all your chances of future success. Same Game Different Rules, top executive coach Jean Hollands addresses a dangerous obstacle that continues to thwart many a talented woman's ambition-- the Bully Broad factor. Tough, assertive, authoritative, often intimidating, Bully Broads have been the driving forces behind many of the most sensational success stories of the New Economy. Unfortunately, many of these exceptional women are discovering, too late, that the very qualities that propelled them up the corporate ladder can just as easily ruin them in today's relationship-building, teamwork-oriented corporate culture. Writing for women in every career stage, Jean Hollands offers her prescription for getting ahead without being perceived as a Bully Broad, Ice Queen, or Ms. Understood. Drawing upon her twenty years of experience coaching thousands of executives at many of the nation's top shops--including Cisco Systems, Intel, Hewlett Packard, Wells Fargo, Sun Microsystems, and Netscape--she identifies the four main types of Bully Broad--the Sounding-Off Tyrant, the Sarcastic Aggressive, the Selectively Quiet, and the Silent Judge. She provides self-quizzes for determining if you or someone you know is a Bully Broad, or in danger of becoming one, and for gauging the effect that that Bully Broad has on co-workers. Ice Queens are cousins of the Silent Bully, so they are discussed at various points in the book. Hollands develops a set of indispensable rules for playing and winning the game in the new world of work, including: Don't burn bridges--ever; You can't control everything--perfectionism kills; Down girl! You don't need to confront at every turn; You don't own the company--and it's not your money.; Don't judge--enjoy! and Listen up until you want to throw up. Don't let shaky people skills derail your career and undermine all you've worked so hard for. Read Same Game, Different Rules and learn powerful lessons on how to work with difficult people who may scare you or overwhelm you. The final payoff will be methods to achieve your goals and derive more satisfaction from your work and your life without compromising your high standards.