Part 1 Making the connections: making the connections, defining the terms; women and self-esteem - six common problems. Part 2 Close to home, close to the heart - intimate relationships and the shaping of self-attitude: introduction; different families, different fates; the early years - essentials of self-esteem; the power of words; the power of role models - like parent, like child; the legacies of troubled friends; moving on from our childhood families; friends, lovers and spouses - the power of chosen intimates; daughters and motherhood. Part 3 Far from home, far from at home - women's experiences in the wider world: introduction; religions as institutions, spirituality as experience; if only we had learned differently - the impact of formal schooling; gaining power in some areas, losing it in others - the impact of government; never done - women's work experience; women in a world of mirrors and images - the impact of the technology of imagery; the not so helpful helping professions; where it's hardest to feel at home - women's experiences in public. Part 4 The high cost of low self-esteem: introduction; can't get this out of my mind - black clouds, critical tapes, chronic comparisons to others, expectations of perfection, expectations of doom, inability to accept a compliment; this will make me worthy and whole - the search for completion through romance, motherhood and work; from not feeling good about ourselves to not feeling at all - emotional expression versus depression; if it weren't for my body I'd be OK - self-esteem and body image; why is pleasure to much work? - sexuality and self-esteem; I'd rather be right than happy - self-fulfilling prophecies; distract me from my dreaded self - I'd rather hate you than me.