Praise for Be With Caregiving for loved ones is a topic often left out of contemporary writing. In Be With, Mike Barnes lifts the curtain on his own experiences with dispatches to anonymous caregivers/loved ones living with the fallout of Alzheimers disease. This slim volume is filled with wisdom for the moments when caregivers may need it most-the long periods of uncertainty while waiting. While Be With may be directed to those who need it most, its in-depth look at human connection is relatable to anyone. -Toronto Book Award Jury Citation Timely, lyrical, tough, accurate. -Margaret Atwood Beautiful. -CHCH-TV My heart lodged in my throat and my eyes stayed glassy over the brief duration of Be With: Letters to a Caregiver. It's a lovely, loving, and unflinching work ... He shares knowledge (The truth is, there's no graceful way to take control of someone's life away from them) and he asks questions (How much room in your own heart?) any caregiver must consider. He also asserts his primary insight: But being with in person trumps all else. It's the one way of caring most likely to be right, and the least likely to be regretted. -Toronto Star The particulars of Mary's dementia give this brief book universal appeal. The author effectively humanizes himself as a man who has made errors, who wishes he had done things differently, and who has his own psychological burdens to bear...A book that tells the reader that you are not alone, whoever you are. -Kirkus Reviews Barnes shares a tender exaltation...with a clear and melodic tenor; there's poetry in his myriad introspections, and a willingness to put everything on the table, good, bad, and heart-wrenching. This is a powerful book for those who have experienced similar trials, regardless of length of time or severity. -Publishers Weekly In their simplicity and even-handed tone, the letters achieve their author's difficult aim: they present as a literary Third Man, a friendly, authoritative voice in the dark that will lead its at-the-end-of-their-tether listeners through to the endgame...What really matters, he concludes, is the hardest thing, being there with her. For every thousand pages describing how living is shattered by this dread disease, there should be at least one page observing how living goes on within it. Be With has 156 pages of them. -Literary Review of Canada Powerful...the short, digestible letters are written with a realistic understanding of busy, exhausted caregivers' time and energy and stay true to the book's title, emphasizing the deceptively simple need to just be with - to witness, see, and accept. Poignant but never heavy-handed, it's a relevant and empathetic book that meets caregivers where they are. -Open Book Praise for Mike Barnes ... fiercely alive, marked by a sharp, unerring eye for detail and a wonderful way with metaphors. -Toronto Star His lucid prose brings to mind Poe's Gothic horror, Hunter S. Thompson's strangeness (without the drug-craze), and William Burroughs' ellipsis (without the disintegration). But it is perhaps closest to Roald Dahl's intimate exploration of human oddity and use of surprise in Switch Bitch. -Globe and Mail
