Norah Vincent really did date women as a guy named Ned, retreat to a monastery, infiltrate a men's therapy group, get a job in a testosterone-fuelled office and join a bowling league where, even as the worst player on her team, the other fellows still chucked her on the shoulder, offered tips, and promised she'd get a handle on it one of these days. Her score never did pass a hundred points. They just thought Ned was hopeless at bowling. They never thought she was a girl.